You don't need to tense up. This isn't about you. Or violence, even. It's about breaking a deadlock. A choice when we oppose. The choice isn't 'do we brain Iris Wildthyme' or not; that's resolved.

[ For now, anyway. ]

The coin isn't morality, because there is no morality. The coin is choice when there is no choice. The option for one of us to have our way, or walk away.

That's all.